The little frustrated boy 自信受挫折的男孩

As many of you may have known that I am currently working as a live-in nanny to pay my bills. There are three kids I take care of and the middle kid is a boy.

不少人知道我目前為了養活自己以一個三個孩子的保母賺錢

Some mornings ago he was practicing on the piano I could hear the method he used was not productive. After 15 mins of practicing in an unproductive manner he ended up in frustration and tears.
前陣子家中的老二獨自練習鋼琴時一邊沒耐心又沒效率的在鋼琴上敲打。想當然要不了多久他便受了挫折,一邊哭一邊說會趕不上學校的表演會

When I walked out of my room I saw the boy was sobbing and his dad was comforting him. The boy was crying over not having enough time to prepare for the talent show at school. Then the family was comforting him by telling him that they don’t expect him to play extraordinarily good but to do his best.  Then, due to the time constraint I had to bring the sobbing boy to school.

當我走出房間準備送孩子們上學時看到全家人為在喪氣的小弟弟身邊鼓勵和安撫他:我們沒有要你出類拔萃,我們只要你盡你得所能



While his older sister was trying to comfort him in the car…as much as I wanted to stay uninvolved due to his negative experience practicing piano with me..…I realized I had to say something to encourage him…not only because his sister just said something really unhelpful unintentionally..but most importantly…what the little boy was going through at that moment was what I have been experiencing for the past 5+ years.

再送小孩子們去上學的路上小弟弟還是在抽泣。於是他的姊姊持續安慰,但最終無心說出本末倒置的話。害得原本不想插手管的我只好趕快打斷姊姊。(之前還有陪小孩練鋼琴時太過嚴厲。造成小弟弟對我在鋼琴上有點反感,所以才不想插手)又不可否認的是小弟弟當下經歷的情緒跟我過去五年多的人生很相像


He expected himself to be better but the outcome showed other-wise

他的實際能力並不如他所想象得

 

So here is the essence of what I said to him.

” I understand you expected yourself to be a better pianist then where you are now. It is okay that you are not where you want to be but it is most important that you keep practicing…then eventually you will be better before you know it!”
於是我誠心地告訴小弟弟:我了解你期盼自己鋼琴彈得好,但是事實不如想像的。但是沒有關係,重要的是你持續努力的練習,總有一天你會發現你進步比想像的多



Of course I did elaborate more than a couple of sentences and let him know what I said to him is from personal experiences. The kid sees me draw every single day so I told him I have drawn past 10,000 hrs and I am still not where I want to be, in fact I am quite frustrated. Everyday I expect myself to be better but I fail too. But that’s okay, because every line I put down counts.

我又繼續說:你看我每天畫畫,我已經花了超過一萬個小時的時間畫畫,但事實上我還沒到達我想要的目的,事實上我相當受挫。我跟你一樣對自己期盼的與事實不符,但沒有關係,因為所有的一筆一畫都很重要。

What the boy went through that day hit closer to home then he knew…

小弟弟也許不知道當下所經歷跟我目前的人生呼應比他目前所能理解的深。老實說表演會早就過了,他恐怕早就把哭得稀哩嘩啦的早上拋到腦後彷彿從未發生,但我還是每天都在跟自己的能力跟自信心搏鬥呢!

DesperateActor_Crocodile_v01.jpg

絕望的女演員小鱷鱷

下星期待續。。。